"We must accept life for what it actually is - a challenge to our quality without which we should never know of what stuff we are made, or grow to our full stature." - Robert Louis Stevenson
This is another way of saying that you can't blame anyone or anything on our outcome because YOU made those decisions.
Mom always reminds me that at an early age I constantly said I wanted to start my own business. All while my parents preached the traditional message of "go to school and get a good job".
Throughout my life I've faced many challenges and tasked myself with big lofty dreams.
While I've been able to successfully launch an app business, a published author, and a freelancer.
None of this came without many failures before I saw any results. This is why I've become fascinated with learning why and how people approach challenges or goals.
Your first step in overcoming your challenges or goals will determine the outcome and this post will prove it for you.
How you overcome those challenges or how you go about achieving your goals is what we're going to focus on today.
There are a list of things you will either face or already have:
- I need to get rid of this debt
- I need to lose weight
- I need to earn more income
- I hate my job and I need to find another one or work for myself
These are all common challenges and goals that many of us face in our live. I know I have....
BUT... what's the difference between those that successfully crush these goals and challenges versus those that don't?
Human beings are conditioned to first look at our circumstances (or excuses) before you even take the first step.
This is definitely the wrong first step and one that you MUST stop immediately.
You know what the common circumstances you refer to:
All of these "excuses" are external blockers that's preventing thousands of people around the world from achieving their dreams and creating amazing experiences for themselves.
These types of people wait on an act of God or luck to create success. Unfortunately this is not a winning strategy that you want to follow.
This is the losers mentality. So.... what's the winners mentality? How do they go about it. Most importantly, what questions do they ask themselves to get started on the right path?
Success-minded people approach the same challenges mentioned about above by first asking themselves a question.
- Need to get out of debt? "How can I eliminate $10,000 of my debt in 1 year?"
- Need to lose weight? "How can I lose 30 pounds in 6 months?"
- Need more income? "How can I increase my income by $20,000 in the next year?"
- Need to start a business? "How can I learn the skills to launch my business this year?"
You'll notice a key trend in all 4 of those scenarios... First the person asked themselves a question which triggers the brain to think of an answer or a solution.
This is the opposite of the losers mentality of making a statement which doesn't trigger the brain to think of anything other than shutting down.
Example: I need to lose weight. "I don't have enough time in the day to get to the gym."
It's important that you start with a question first because that's where the solutions comes from.
Next within that question you must get specific. It does you no good just to ask yourself "how am I going to lose this weight".
Instead you need to be specific with exact numbers and time frames. This is what makes what you're trying to accomplish or overcome real. This is where goals are truly made.
In my previous post, I talked about how having a system is more important than having motivation.
Next time you're faced with a difficult situation or want to accomplish a goal remember this first step.
Most importantly, remember that winners ask questions to trigger solutions, losers make statements of excuses.