Are you making a resolution for 2020? Warning: More than 50% of all resolutions fail, but this year, they don't have to be your.
Around this time of year, the New Year resolution chatter starts to increase with "next year I'm going to do this or that...."
- "I'm doing to lose weight and get in shape....."
- "I'm going to get out of debt...."
- "I'm going to get a better job...."
It's very likely you're having those exact conversations now and planning those "resolutions". Here's the reality... the resolution mindset doesn't work and history proves this.
According to the time management firm FranklinCovey, one-third of resolutioners don't make it past the end of January.
A lot of these resolutions fail because they're not the right resolutions. And a resolution may be wrong for one of three main reasons:
- It's a resolution created based on what someone else (or society) is telling you to change
- It's too vague and not clearly defined
- You don't have a realistic plan for achieving your resolution
Many people go through the current year adrift, working hard, but don't know why and without any deep driven purpose.
Then as we approach the New Year, the "trendy" thing to do is to come up with a resolution to fit in with everyone else. Not realizing they've failed before they even started because their resolution isn't connected to their true purpose.
I can relate because I too use to make the same mistakes year after year. But then I learned the key to truly planning my goals and resolutions.
Using the same principles I'm about to share with you I've been able to achieve some amazing goals in my life. Below is my 6-step formula to successfully planning and crushing your goals.
Identify Your Four Pillars
Society is obsessed with being successful instead of focusing on happiness. We aimlessly set goals for the purpose of impressing others instead of tapping into your purpose.
"Not all seek meaning, but those that do will find it."
Before you can effectively set goals or a New Year resolution, you must understand what gives you purpose in life. In previous years I committed this mistake; setting goals to impress others that didn't have any true meaning to me.
That's when I discovered the Four Pillars of a Purposeful Life.
Think of the four pillars as a structure or foundation of a house, keeping it standing strong. That's a lot like how your house operates.
My personal four pillars is Health, Wealth, Love and Happiness. It's up to you to define your own four pillars.
By defining your four pillars you are then able to set your goals based on the pillars that's meaningful to you.
Every goal that I set needs to be congruent with my four pillars to fit who I am:
- Health - will my goals allow me to sustain a healthy lifestyle?
- Wealth - will my goals move me toward creating wealth in my life?
- Love - will my goals support me loving my friends and family?
- Happiness - will my goals support the things that truly makes me the most happiest?
Health, Wealth, Love & Happiness: those are the four pillars of a meaningful life for me. Happiness comes and goes. But when life is really good and when things are really bad, having meaning gives you something to hold on to. That's the power of defining your four pillars.
Awareness of Your Passion
Nothing gives a person inner wholeness and peace like a distinct understanding of where they are going.
Many people make the mistake of living life through the lens of others instead of designing what life should be for them. That's how we end of in jobs we hate, relationships we hate and an endless cycle of stress and anxiety.
"The purpose of life is a life of purpose." - Robert Byrne
Simply put.... you can't truly set goals or a New Year resolution if you haven't clearly connected with your purpose and passions in life.
This is why you must connect with your purpose and passion in life. Your goals should be connected to your purpose and not the purpose of others.
Social media gives us a false sense of what our purpose and goals should be. People flashing money, big houses and fancy cars.
Which is another reason why resolutions fail at a high rate.
The key is to do more of what you enjoy and brings out the very best in you and you will continually clarify what it is that you want to do, be and have in life.
This will increase your chances of crushing your goals and New Year resolutions.
Write Your Goal Down
Do you write down your goals and dreams on a regular basis? Or do you simply think about them, without actually recording them anywhere?
A recent study found that you become 42% more likely to achieve your goals and dreams, simply by writing them down on a regular basis.
The likelihood that you'll achieve your goals goes up even further if you share your written goals with a friend who believes in your ability to succeed.
So why does writing your goals down work?
Your brain is made up of two hemispheres; left side (literal focused) and right side (imagination). Both are connected to the corpus callosum which is the conduit through which the electrical signals between both hemispheres make contact.
These signals communicate throughout our body to the consciousness that transitions our thoughts into reality.
So how does this translate into writing your goals down versus not writing them down?
If you keep your goals in your head, you're ONLY using the right hemisphere of your brain. Conversely, by writing your goals down you send the message to your whole body that what you want is real!
As you start thinking about your New Year resolutions and goals remember to pull out a notecard to write it down.
Start With the End
When you start to set and plan your goals out it's important that you think about the end first.
By thinking about the end first it allows you to project what achieving your goal will feel like, smell like, and how it will make you a better person.
By doing this it allows you to connect with the feeling of already achieving your goal thus keeping you motivated to push towards hitting your goals.
It's highly likely that you will bump into challenges during your journey of hitting your goals. You'll get sick, family obligations, setback on the job, and many other things.
People that are able to push through those challenges are the people that will crush their goals. You increase your likelihood of pushing through by connecting with the emotion of already hitting your goals.
We all want to be successful in our goals and it's these goals that put meaning into our lives - gives us something to strive for and help better ourselves.
As humans, we are built to naturally see the problems and easily punish ourselves for bad behavior. Poor performances are quickly condemned in our minds and guilt can rise to the surface.
Our mindsets can bring us down when we feel we've failed and this usually results in giving up on dreams and goals.
So what is the secret to sustaining high motivation while achieving your goals? Successful people experience many highs and lows often but how do they keep pushing forward?
The key to success is realizing that our big goals aren't going to happen overnight. We tend to put too much emphasis on the end goal rather than the small and significant steps we take to get us to that goal.
This is why it's important to celebrate your small wins along the way. The issue with not acknowledging your small victories is it kills your motivation which is what keeps you on the right path.
By setting daily, weekly and monthly goals it allows you to accomplish two key things:
- accurately track how far away you are from your goal
- milestones to set up celebrations along the way
Acknowledging these sparks our brains and releases chemicals that gives us the feeling of pride, giving us the feel-good and happiness factor and makes us want to go further towards our next milestone.
Your goals are very personal which is why we tend to not share them with others. In fact, a well thought out goal hints at the person's vulnerability and deepest desires.
Research supports that sharing your goals and being vulnerable comes with great undiscovered power.
Sharing your goals in life with others in an important success strategy. Studies show that men and women who publicly share their weight loss goals lost more weight than those who didn't.
This strategy is also effective with other goals as well -- not just weight loss and health goals. The reality is that your chance of actually achieving your goals is greatly increased when you share it with others.
Why is this strategy so effective?
#1 - Mental Clarity
We discussed the importance of writing your goals down. But being able to articulate your goal and it's purpose is even more powerful.
By speaking your goal out loud, it helps you clarify and sharpen your goal. The person your speaking with will ask questions and force you to focus on things you may not have thought about.
This will help you increase the intensity of your goal.
#2 - Accountability
Writing your goal down makes it real, but sharing your goal with someone else keeps you accountable.
It's human nature that we do not want to let ourselves down, but we certainly do not like letting others down even more. Now, others can hold you accountable by asking you about the progress you've made towards reaching your goal.
Especially when we share our goals with people who we truly respect and have accomplished many goals in their lives.
Use this formula as your guide to set your goals and New Year resolution. Don't be the person that talks about your goals for the new year because it's the "cool" thing to talk about.
Respect and value yourself enough to take the time to do it the right way. By doing so you will be on your way to creating the next "best" version of yourself. And I believe in you to do it!
What's Your Next Step?
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