There are 3 things for certain that will happen in your life… death, taxes, and setbacks. Or something to that effect.
Even the most successful people in the world have experienced setbacks and continue to do so today. So don’t expect it to be any different for you.
I remember I was laid off from my job in 2008 due to the financial crisis. I went through all the emotions, depression, anxiety, anger and feeling like I wanted to give up.
After all… I did everything I was supposed to do. Never late, stayed late when needed and went above beyond the call of duty. That still wasn’t enough to keep me from getting escorted out the door.
During my time off I spent time reading more books and listening to self-help audio seeking answers. It was there I found the key to overcoming obstacles in the future.
Remember that setbacks are only challenges in disguise. Look at them as lessons don’t waste time beating yourself up. Just get back on track and focus on what you want. It’s up to you, and you will do it!
I learned that regardless of what setback you face in life, you MUST own it. Don’t play the pity game and blame someone else.
Owning your setbacks forces you to develop the mindset of focusing on what you can do and then execute on those thoughts.
At first, this is hard to do of course because some setbacks will truly be out of your control. A boss not liking you, spouse or partner cheats on you, family member steals money from you, a business partner does a deal behind your back.
I get it…. these things suck and someone else caused your setback. But this is where you still must own it. Not owning it gives them power over you come up from your setback.
Realize that where you are at this moment to experience your setback is tied to a series of decisions YOU made to get you there.
Focusing on external factors forces you to think negative thoughts like:
- how can this happen to me?
- It’s their fault, not mine?
- the government has control over my success?
None of those thoughts will put you in a mental state to turn your setback into your success story.
Anytime I experience a setback the first thing I do is man up and own it. It’s not anyone else’s fault, it’s mine. This is my setback to deal with.
Developing this mindset has allowed me to achieve some amazing things in my life of course by my standards.
- I went from laid off of a $55K job to a $100K+ job in the same year
- I went from being a horrible English student to a published author
- I went from not knowing how to write code to launch and exiting an app business
- I went from being a complete introvert to running my own blog
Next time you experience a setback, remember this article knowing the first thing you MUST do is own it.
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